Why is dating younger men wrong
Let’s go back to our formula we just used: Real Attraction = Sexual Chemistry Connection Respect Now in this case, unlike the Friend Trap, the guy clearly has Sexual Chemistry with you.But somewhere your relationship is lacking in either Connection or Respect.In the beginning I was still hung up on Bad Boy, but distraction and detox (no contact with Bad Boy) really worked. Some of you were kind enough to answer my 60-second survey question: What is the single biggest challenge you’re dealing with in dating and relationships these days?
Let’s explain both of these traps individually and why different kinds of women fall into them. It’s typically seen as something that afflicts men more commonly, but it happens to women as well.The Friends-With-Benefits Trap happens when you are having sex (or some sexual activity) with a guy, and although you want him to be your boyfriend he never wants to commit.At first you think he has issues with commitment, but then you realise you’ve seen him with a girlfriend before.Imagine the following simple formula for attraction: Real Attraction = Sexual Chemistry Connection Respect The guy can have all the Connection and Respect in the world for you, but without Sexual Chemistry, he’s not going to be able to feel true attraction for you. But neither he, nor you, nor anyone else can force sexual chemistry if he doesn’t feel it.
Moreover, you have to watch out for those guys who actually enjoy the validation of the Friend Trap and stay there on purpose, enjoying your attention but never really making their move.
The phrase “finding a man who wants to be a grown-up” came up several times.